Maclaine Defelice

My Story

I feel most connected to my LGBTQ+ community and allies. I want to support those who feel uncomfortable and find it hard to be their authentic self.

I was a closeted skinny gay boy growing up in the South. I was always a perfectionist and a people pleaser. I played the crazy extremes, throwing myself out there and facing my fears, only to retreat when I got an opposing reaction. I was constantly judging myself and rarely felt self-confident. I embraced other people’s opinions instead of my own.

At 34, I realized, oh, f**k, time is moving, I’m exhausted, and I haven’t achieved all I hoped for. I’d spent years trying to be whatever I thought others wanted me to be, hoping it would make me feel secure in all my relationships. Nothing felt right. I was stuck. I needed to do something different.

After years of therapy working through what was holding me back, I started to figure out what I needed. For fourteen years, I worked as a Master Colorist at a high-end salon, where I built strong relationships with my clients. The opportunity arose to create a presentation about handling stress in the salon environment, dealing with demanding clients and co-workers, and not taking things personally. The process of developing the presentation and my co-workers stating how much they benefited from the content was rewarding. I wanted to do more. Shortly afterward, I enrolled in The Life Coach School and earned my Certification in Life Coaching.

Everything changed after that. I finally feel like I’m living my life on my terms, and my choices are my own. I’ve found my purpose, and I would love to help you find yours.